moral dilemmas

You ever get that feeling you just want to roll back time? Of course you have; everyone has. Shit, I get it two or three times a week. This time though ...

It just keeps getting worse. I mean, Leanne's gran is getting better, and they think she'll be all right. Which is good.

Okay, this is the place for honesty, isn't it? Good is too un-ambiguous. It's a mixed blessing, that's what it is. If you can call it that, when what I really mean is that I still can't sort out in my mind what's the better outcome. Leanne has no doubts, and I love her for that, I really do. On the other hand, it's really not helping the family tension. When her dad suggested that maybe it would have been better if she'd never woken -- he was subtle about it! But that was what he meant, and I could see Leanne's mom agreed with him, even if she couldn't come out and say so -- I mean Leanne just blew. She was so mad.

But I could see their point of view. It's not like anyone ever gets better from Alzheimer's. It's all downhill. Leanne's not stupid, she knows that as well as we do. Is it just selfishness -- not wanting to lose someone you love? -- or is she right, when she says her gran deserves to live as long as she can. I'm not sure I believe in life at any price.

But I don't believe in death after life, either. You know, that's a weird thing -- why are the people who believe in life after death the same people who believe in life at any cost?

Okay, so not the point.

The thing is ... Leanne's mad at her parents because she thinks they think it would be more convenient for her gran to die. They're mad at Leanne for not seeing their point of view. I can see both sides, and that really doesn't win me points with my girlfriend!

There we go, another moral dilemma, breed like flies, don't they? When a friend can't see past their own opinions, are you obliged to point out their blindness, or does friendship mean you should support them whatever?

I guess it depends on the consequences. It's not like I want to tell Leanne her parents have a point just to be nasty; I hate seeing families torn apart like this, that's all.

And Mike's insistence that she didn't wander away without someone's encouragement really isn't helping!